Enrollment closes on Tuesday, June 30th at 11pm PST. We open enrollment only a few times each year.
Enrollment closes on Tuesday, June 30th at 11pm PST. We open enrollment only a few times each year.
Parents of children with special needs experience chronic stress levels comparable to combat soldiers.
There are not many places we can turn to. Our friends and family really do not understand just how hard this is.
We are often suffering alone, without practical solutions to get us unstuck.
Our nervous system is constantly being strained and activated in fight or flight.
Not only does it feel terrible and we are often spinning in that stressful place for years. We are also at higher risk for PTSD, Depression and Divorce.
We think we can outrun stress by working harder. But this creates more stress and chaos.
Mothers with special needs children needs support and effective strategies to cope with all that feels hard.
Being a mom for a child with Autism, ADHD or other special challenges is HARD.
It's a unique hard that those with neurotypical kids cannot understand.
It seems that every step of the way towards trying to help your child is hard.
From diagnosis to finding treatment & services.
From figuring out how to catch them up academically to finding causes to symptoms.
Literally every step of the way is confusing, unclear, frustrating and overwhelming.
On top of this: You’re worried about your child’s future. These thoughts terrorize you.
Your brain goes from one episode of your kid hitting you to thinking about how he’ll grow up with the same behaviors and become homeless, unloved and unhappy.
Plus there’s all the symptoms that's constantly keeping you worried and on edge.
You feel like you are walking on eggshells. You never know when shit is gonna hit the fan and your kid throws a tantrum over some small thing you didn't anticipate.
Maybe something you cooked, or they were touched accidentally, or a distant sound, or unable to put on their pants. All of these can initiate tantrums in them.
Your body is constantly being triggered and pulled.
The constant bombard of mom guilt is unreal!
There are just so much to do. You never seem to have enough time or help from your spouse or partner.
You carry this heavy burden to be able to do it all. So you overwork and stay up late. Sacrificing yourself for the sake of your family.
You think that "Good moms can do it all." So you created this expectation of yourself that you can never meet.
Your brain is bombarded with "should's".
I should work full time.
I should stay at home with my kids.
I should keep the house clean, cook all meals from scratch, be the perfect home educator.
I should be able to help my child more.
I should spent the perfect amount of equal times with all my kids, even tho the special needs one(s) take up most of your time.
All of this leads to self blame and mom guilt and internal pressure.
When things seem they can't get any harder. They do.
Like ...
your kid taking a dump in their pants at Target while you're shopping and you are late for an appointment.
Or having to clean off poop from the dinning room wall.
(I have a lot of poop trauma from my experience. 😆)
You never allow yourself to really rest. Literally everyone comes before you. You're last. You're not even on the list of priorities. You're running on empty, fueled by urgency, scarcity and fear.
Your body is constantly activated. You might feel like the world is against you and you're constantly having to defend yourself.
Depending on how long you've been at this parenting thing. You may have forgotten what it was like to be happy.
Those random moments when you would suddenly remember your dreams from before you had kids. It hurts to think about. You push those aside. It’s too painful. It’s depressing. So you rather forget you had those because you have kids now and you don't have a choice.
Somedays you lose your temper. Maybe yell or say something you regretted later. And then you end up beating yourself up for being a terrible mom.
Some nights when you are alone. You might secretly wish that you didn’t have this child and these problems. Then immediately feel immense guilt for even having these thoughts. What would people think if they knew you had these secret thoughts? You drop into deep shame.
At the end of the day. You sink into the couch in exhaustion. Time to have a little break, a little bit of joy. You deserve it.
To find some emotional relief and comfort, you might eat food, eat something sweet, drink wine, or over spend on things you regret buying later.
You might also overwork, or over-research, or scrolling for hours on social media. Anything that distracts you away from feeling the pain of it all.
And then you learn about some people on social media healing Autism and ADHD. This scares and overwhelms you.
You already have so much on your place. Your overloaded system cannot bare adding another thing to your plate.
You might be thinking "I don't think I can handle anymore stress. I can't add another thing on my plate now. It's too hard."
You might also be thinking "It may have worked for them. It won't work for me. And I'll have wasted time. So I'm not gonna bother"
So you avoid it. But continue to beat yourself up for not starting or doing something about it. More shame and guilt is added to the heavy dose of negative emotions you're spiral in.
At the end of the day. You basically always end up in the same place:
You blame yourself.
You've failed your kids.
You're not doing enough.
You're not a good mom.
Your brain goes on a rampage of self blame. And you don't know how to stop it.
My name is Tina. My first born was diagnosed with Level 2 Autism, ADHD, Epilepsy, Auditory Processing Disorder.
For 9 years, this was my life. My marriage was failing. My son was getting worse. After being on 7 different kinds of ADHD medication, the last of those meds stopped working.
This poor kid wasn’t sleeping. Because his behaviors were erratic and self harming. Every time he woke up, we got up with him.
We had sensors installed on all the doors. So if he got up, my phone would wake me up.
I slept with one eye open.
The amount of chaos in our life was beyond reasonable. My family was falling apart. I was exhausted - physically and emotionally.
I felt hopeless. alone. and stuck.
I didn't know how to get out of the spirals. And there was never enough time to get everything done. I was constantly catching up and always behind.
The only times I felt happy was the rare days we went on vacations. Usually just the first day, and then it's chaos. Traveling with a sensitive with with Autism and ADHD was just stressful.
I had no tools. I've tried parenting books and courses and youtube videos. But they never worked for me. They sound nice but it just doesn't work for this kid.
Then in that 9th year, in my most desperate of personal lows, two things happened:
Thing #1: I discovered cognitive coaching and started receiving private coaching from certified coaches
Thing #2: I learned the idea that changing a child’s diet can potentially change his behaviors
Even tho I was exhausted and didn't want to add another thing to my plate. I was desperate.
I had tried everything at that point and my child was getting worse.
I had already lowest of lows. With my back against the wall. I had no where else to go but up. So I went ALL IN on both things.
It was like someone threw me a lifeline. And I grabbed on for dear life.
Eventually the lifeline led me on to a boat, and the boat led me to the shores of solid land where I was finally safe.
While the journey was painful. That 9th year was the most pivotal.
It changed my life.
And eventually changed the trajectory of my child’s life. Forever.
I learned that thoughts create feelings.
And feelings drive everything in our life.
And makes up our entire life experience.
Our feelings can make everything harder or easier.
And that if I felt good, I was immensely more resourceful and creative. And it felt so much nicer than feeling terrible.
Our feeling also fuel everything we do or don't do.
And when I felt positive emotions, I was able to more easily help my son, help myself and create extraordinary results.
I learned to manage my emotions.
I learned how to clean up negative emotions.
I learned how to generate positive emotions that moves me forward.
I learned how to stop talking down to myself.
I learned to find clarity and know what to do when overwhelm offered itself.
I learned to manage my time so I had a lot more of it.
I learned how to communicate with my body and nervous system so I can calm it down at any time.
I learned how to stop the destructive cycles of self judgment and mom guilt.
I learned to be decisive.
I learned how to manage my brain in a way that frees up SO MUCH space.
I learned to really love myself and care for myself in a way that is really empowering.
And by learning all these new skills. Not only was I able to free up so much mental and emotional energy.
My children felt safer. And my children started modeling me.
They are learning how to manage their own emotions, how to deal with fear and anxiety, how to calm their nervous system.
It makes me giddy to think about how these tools will be with them as they grow up to become adults. They will experience so much less unnecessary suffering than I did.
Overtime, my brain started re-wiring itself and started seeing, experiencing and responding with the world differently.
In the last 3 years, my marriage healed. My child’s symptoms improved significantly.
My business improved with a lot more ease and success. And I experienced Exponential personal growth and fulfillment.
When I started. I just wanted to survive. I just wanted the pain and pressure to stop.
But where I ended up was so much more profound:
I found myself.
I found healing (that I didn’t know I needed).
I changed my own life.
I became my own hero.
Caring for and healing your nervous system is priceless work. These are tools that will be with you and will benefit you for the rest of your life.
If your body is activated, stressed, or operating in survival mode. First thing we do is prioritize and help you get out of fight or flight.
If you are feeling stressed and overwhelmed, you don’t know where to begin.
We first start here and get you feeling in control.
We teach you how your nervous system and your brain works. And tools to get you to a different state.
We can also to use 1-on-1 coaching coaching to help you de-activate, regulate, and calm your emotional state.
We start with where you are at emotionally and mentally.
Once your nervous system is no longer triggered and activated. Then we help you get unstuck emotionally and feel better.
Whatever it is that is keeping you stuck right now in a negative spiral, cognitive coaching has an effective way to help you uncover what you can't see.
Depending on how long you've been stuck in your current problem. Issues can be cleared up in as little as one coaching call.
You've been feeling this pressure for way too long.
Let's help you find some relief. You deserve that.
We will teach you about your brain, how to work with it, how to calm it down. And how you can coach yourself.
Once we clean up the negative emotional spirals. We then work on creating an intentional life on purpose.
Your mind is a powerful machine. You're gonna learn how to train it to work FOR you. Not against you.
You will gain so much new found awareness through starting to observe yourself in a new way.
You will learn how your brain works. And what you can do about it.
You will understand the foundations for how your nervous system works. So when we are triggered, we'll know it's just our nervous system acting out.
You will learn how to process your emotions. So you are no longer scared of big emotions that feel bad like Anxiety, Shame, Fear. You'll know what to do.
And if you are ever having a hard time on your own processing emotions, you can get on a call with a coach who can hold your hand thru it on a private call until you are in a better space.
When we don't process an emotion. They stay trapped in our body.
Trauma is painful emotions that's been trapped in the body.
This work will change everything for you. It's deeply healing and very empowering.
You will learn how to manage your own mind. And how to coach yourself.
So you are empowered to getting yourself to a better emotional place on your own.
You will learn how to use your emotions as a compass in directing your best life.
When you are well. Everyone you love benefits.
Investing in you. Putting yourself first is not selfish.
Actually. Not doing it is selfish.
We don't subscribe for perfectionism.
We believe you can still heal, improve and move forward without doing it all perfectly.
I created The Tribe for the version of myself who suffered alone for 9 years.
I'll never forget her. And I'll never forget her pain.
The amount of pressure, overload, overwhelm and stress she experienced is what I intimately know how to help with.
I came out on the other side.
And I am committed to being a lifeline to another mom who is in a similar spot.
The Tribe is the container to fulfill this commitment.
It is a distillation of everything I've learned from Neuroscience, Cognitive Psychology, Coaching Clients, Holistic Healing Modalities, from the past 20 years.
Plus I've spent over $100K on Coaching my own brain.
This program contains only the tools, techniques, strategies that actually work.
BUT, I've distilled it all down organized, easy to consume, highly practical, simple and very effective tools, processes & training.
For my clients who are committed, follows the process I've created and puts the tools into practice - They see life changing results right away!
You don't have to do this alone.
You don't have to do this the hard way.
Let me show you an easier way.
I've walked over 200 moms (and a few dads) thru this process.
It works.
"I joined The Tribe because there was something in my mode of operation that was not working.
I would do whatever I could to give the world to my children, research any issue they had, work with them in school and life, but at the end of the day, I was exhausted, easily triggered, and would find myself angry at the simplest things.
I have loved and learned so many invaluable life and perspective changing tools!
Today, as I'm solidifying the details for our vacation, I find myself start worrying about what's going to happen or something that isn't booked right, but then I start telling my brain that it’s going to be ok, and I’ll figure it out as it comes.
SUCH relief and worry lifted off! It’s a wonderful feeling!
The short time I've been here has been invaluable. I LOVE the weekly calls and how open we all can be with practically strangers - and feel supported, and heard, and leave encouraged! This community is amazing!
You have no idea how much calmer I am and more confident in my choices because I now care about me. My oldest one is happier too, and the times she would freak out about silly little things, I tell her the same things you tell us! Lol and she bounces back real quick! "
-Celeste
(Jber, Alaska)
Here are a few things you'll gain from utilizing the Process, the Tools and the Coaching from inside The Tribe:
Our primary focus and purpose is on you. We are committed to helping you have mental and emotional support.
And to spend more time in emotions that are more helpful, peaceful, easier and healthier. And less time in emotions that keeps us stuck, keeps us feeling bad, and robes us of our inner peace.
When this happens. When we are feeling better. This will indirectly affect your child.
As a community, we also happen to have a large number of members who are on the healing journey to reversing symptoms of Autism, ADHD and others developmental diagnosis.
So we have a lot of knowledge as a group. Plus we have hired a Certified Nutritional Therapist to answer technical health questions in the Community.
This is not required. But if you are someone who is needing support on this journey: whether it's starting, being consistent, or you are stuck with what to do next, we have bonus resources and knowledge that can help.
At the start of every month, a new Masterclass on a relevant topic that supports your emotional and mental wellbeing is added.
What this means for you is learning new practical tools that you can use right away to improve your life. Have solutions to common problems like overwhelm, anxiety, self judgement, confidence, emotional management.
One class a month allows you the space to focus on one topic at a time. Each topic comes with worksheets or workbooks so you so you can dive deeper and REALLY know it. This will change how you react and behave in the long term.
Each class comes with an abundance of strategies you can try.
If you learn just one strategy or one concept, and integrate that into your life. Just this alone will be worth more than the cost of your membership. Each concept can change the direction of your life.
Topics are curated and hand selected by me for you, based on my experience in testing out these strategies. I will only present and teach strategies that I know works. Topics are applicable to all of us. You'll also learn topics you didn't realize were important or helpful for your own healing journey.
You have the option to dive deep into the topic for the month if you would like. We will have a Q&A call on the topic each month so we can discuss as a group, and clear up any questions that come up for you.
You can also pick and choose which masterclass to focus on from previous month. You can take as long or as quick to complete it.
Classes come with transcripts. So you can print those out to make it easier to highlight and take notes.
Here are some previous month's topics:
There are weekly Live coaching calls with me where you can get coached or you can receive coaching by watching someone else get coached.
What this means for you is you will realize you no longer feel alone. You'll see that you are not the only one with that problem.
They are encouraging, fulfillment, empowering and has a sense of connection and community.
If you volunteer to get coached, it'll be like getting private 1-on-1 coaching with me.
All calls are recorded. You do not need to attend live, watching replays are just as valuable.
You also have the option to submit questions ahead of time if you won't make it to the call live.
We also include a handy Call Summary with each replay along with time stamps. So you can scan thru the call summary for topics that's relevant for you. You can also watch or listen to the whole thing.
Listen to call replays, masterclasses, workshops and some courses on the go easily.
This is a great way to tap into our group energy and get the content while you're driving, getting ready in the morning, or exercising.
The podcast is linked to your membership account. You will have access to this as long as you are a member.
Load it into your favorite podcast app. Have new episodes download automatically.
We have the BEST community! You will not find a more empowered groups of moms supporting each other, on this unique journey in helping our child.
Never feel alone again.
Connect with other members of the Tribe directly, or join smaller study groups on a certain topic (ie. New to Diet Changes Group).
The community is where we share healing knowledge, resources (food, recipes, products, doctors, testing) and where you can ask questions 24/7.
The members in this community are parents with children with a variety of developmental diagnoses. Such as: Autism, ADHD, OCD, PANS/PANDAS, Auditory Process Disorder, and a few with no diagnosis.
For some moms in our group, this is their favorite part.
And no the community isn't on Facebook. We currently use Slack. You'll be invited into our private community.
If you need help, or struggling with something. This is a safe space, that's open 24/7, that you can go to to get support.
The moms understands what you are going thru. We have all been there ourselves.
We have parents at all stages of healing with various experience levels who might be able to help.
Have a question? Stuck in confusion on what to do next? Need some advice on what you're doing? Want feedback on doctors or treatments?
Bring all your questions to the community questions thread.
We have tools and resources that can help you figure out what is the right next step for you.
Have all your questions answered.
There are no stupid questions.
Ask about your unique situation into the community question thread.
The question thread is monitored by our resident Health Advisor, Vicky - who is a Certified Nutritional Practitioner. She is qualified to answers technical health questions.
So you know it's not just some moms who googled some stuff. You're getting feedback from a trained functional practitioner.
You will also have access to me in the community. I'm in there looking at all your questions and answering them all. This is something I'm unable to do outside of the membership.
You can ask questions 24/7.
If you need strategies. How to get started? What to do next? Here is where you ask those questions so we can support you.
Tap into our collective tribe knowledge of parents who are further along in the healing journey.
Always have a place to ask questions. You are literally not alone anymore.
I send out a quick, but tightly packed video message to you every Monday. They are super short. Typically 2-5 mins. Via text and email.
What this means for you is you'll receive a bite size piece of wisdom, inspiration or tool that will help to set up your week on a positive note.
The videos are super short. You can quickly watch it and move on with your day.
You'll also get reminders and updates for what's happening that week and what's new. So you are always in the loop.
This is a highly valuable resource within the membership. I am regularly adding new tools to The Tool Box.
The Tool Box contains short audios and videos for various neuroscience tools to calm your nervous system.
Everything is super short - Under 5 minutes so it's easily consumed even if you are short on time.
You can do them while you are triggered or upset.
Or you can do them as part of a daily practice to develop better self-regulation and higher sense of inner perception.
Come with me behind the scenes. Take a peek in my personal life, what I'm struggling with, what I'm working on, my favorite things, life lessons, tips traveling with kids and other fun ideas.
These videos are candid and contains content not shared anywhere else.
We add additional bonus workshops on relevant topics periodically to support the various needs of our diverse group.
Here are current bonus workshops and learning groups:
Get access to all previous month's content plus bonus resources.
From the Learning Vault, you'll have access to:
This is the course that contains foundational concepts to understanding your brain and your nervous system.
I condensed these core concepts into several short videos that can be easily consumed.
You'll have access to this course immediately.
I recommend all new members go thru this course first. Before diving into other concepts.
This is the best value you can find anywhere online for this type of work. What you will gain is priceless.
The cost for The Tribe is $147 each month. Just the private 1-on-1 coaching alone is worth more than this.
It's a no brainer.
Most coaching groups and programs cost several thousand dollars. And you do not have private coaching.
I promise. If you follow the process. If you use the things we offer in the membership. You will blow your own mind. You will gain more value than what you've paid. I guarantee it!
Try us for a month. Go all in. Commit to your own transformation. And see how your life will change in a few weeks.
You have nothing to lose. Literally.
Let's unleash the burden.
If you show up, willing to commit, willing to be open, and willing to give this process a fair shot. I can guarantee your results for the first month.
If you give this process a fair chance, and you don’t think that this work can change your life, I will give you your money back in the first month. ***
(***Giving this process a fair chance means, during your first month after enrollment: Schedule two private 1-1 coaching calls that take place within the first 25 days of enrollment. These calls are 20minutes each. Attend both calls, show up on time, be open and emotionally available for the coach to help you. Plus watch at least one video workshop or group coaching call. Refund requests must be made within the first 25 days of enrollment via email)
It depends on you. You get as much out of it as you put in. I recommend picking one thing to focus on. Making that your minimum baseline.
You don't have to do everything. It's a little like a gym membership, where there are tons of classes. You don't need to attend all the classes and use all the equipment in the gym to get value. Same with here. Pick and choose what you feel called.
Some members are only interested in Private 1-on-1 coaching. Those are 20 minutes each and you get two of them. So that's 40 mins a month. You can easily fit 20 mins during the week, even if you work a full time job.
Some members are only interested in the community. To have a safe space to ask questions and get clarity.
Some members are only interested in the classes and workshops.
Some members love the Live group calls. The energy of the groups are very special and intimate.
And some do a combination of the above.
The monthly masterclasses are about an hour long. And that's once a month. So 1-2 hours a month if you want to do the class and get your private coaching in.
The weekly live coaching is about an hour.
We also have the private podcast feed for members only. That makes it easier for you to listen on the go - while you're driving, getting ready in the morning. etc.
20% of our members do not have children with special needs. And some do not have any kids. They are women doing the work on themselves to change their own life and provide their own healing.
The tools and coaching are universal. It will be applicable to any human with a brain.
The private 1-on-1 coaching sessions involves highly experienced Advanced Coaches helping you with your unique problems and your brain.
If you are a functioning human, feeling negative emotions, and you want to feel better, we can help.
There are no topics we can't discuss. Each coach is experienced in all the major topics: anxiety, weight loss, goal setting, confidence, money, self worth, health goals, relationships, over drinking, overeating, marriage, sex, grief and business.
Our primary goal is to support your emotional and mental health. We work with you and your brain, and support you from where you are at and your goals.
Change diets for your child is not required. But should you decide to ever start this for your child or family. We have all the resources, how-to, coaching to support you so it's do-able. The resources are there for anyone who wants it.